MICE (Meeting, Incentive, Convetion, Exhibition)

Avoiding unnecessary meetings is one of the more important things that you need to learn about when you are working your way up the food chain at work. Your office is probably filled with all kinds of people and many of them are probably not the best workers. This wouldn’t be so bad if you were not responsible for the work churned out by so many of them! They key to success when getting out of meetings is teaching your employees or underlings some good time management skills.

Time management is something that we can all benefit from. This kind of skill will help you and others to become more efficient in their everyday work. If you can get everyone working on a good schedule then you will be able to keep them in line much better which will allow you to avoid having to have all kinds of meetings just to chastise your workers.

There are a couple of ways that you can teach these skills to your people. You can give a mini seminar for one or you can bring someone else in to give it. This is a powerful tool that will help you to get the message across. After this seminar it is up to you to enforce all of the things that were taught. You need to keep on top of everyone and remind them of all the tips that were given out. Make sure that they understand that you mean business and that you will not tolerate having to schedule meeting after meeting just so that you can reprimand them.

Always remember that good time management is THE best way to avoid unnecessary meetings each and every day of the year. If you work on this you will see your team becoming more efficient in no time flat.

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It happens to everyone. There she is. Sitting with her friends. Making eye contact with you all night long. The two of you have had a two hour silent conversation with your eyes. All this time, you try and build up the courage to walk over and introduce yourself.

Her interest is so blatant that your friends threaten to disown you if you don’t approach her. They even give you “the Ultimate pick-up line” to use on her.

Armed with this. You stand. Calmly walk over to her. Perfectly deliver your opening line.

She smiles.

And then it happens…

Your mind goes blank. You don’t know what to say. In fact, you start to question whether English is even your native language. You sputter out a couple of questions, things start to get awkward.

Dead silence.

After a few seconds that feel like ten hours of painful silence, she turns to her friends, ignoring you. You return to your friends. Dejected.

This is the reason most men are afraid to approach women: Not because they lack a good pick-up line, or are too chicken. It is because they do not know what to say – AFTER THE PICK-UP LINE.

Fear of silence.

The number one reason men fear approaching women is they don’t know how to start a conversation. But I am going to teach you a single, simple three-step technique, that you can use immediately.

How do you start a conversation with a woman?

Use the Ask-Answer-Ask technique. It is simple, but it works.

It is simple as you are going to ask very common questions:

1. What do you do for a living?
2. What kind of music do you like?
3. What TV shows/Movies do you like?

That sort of thing.

But, you are going to ask them in a certain way that creates conversation, as follows:

STEP 1. ASK – You ask her a general question.

Example:

You: So what do you do for a living?
She: I’m an accountant.

Now, the mistake most guys would make here is trying to come up with something clever to say about her job, or whether she knows so-and-so who is also an accountant. Something to fill the silence. Don’t do that. It looks needy and desperate. Wait. In silence. With no comment. It is her turn to respond. It is your job to wait.

Until she says:

She: So what do you do?

Good! Now she has reciprocated and you can respond. Then, the next step is easy.

STEP 2. ANSWER – You answer your own question.

You: I am a stock broker/fireman/etc.

These first two steps are precursors to a conversation. You both throw out a fact about each other. So in the next step the conversation can begin.

STEP 3. ASK – You ask a related, more specific question.

Now you are on equal footing. You have each asked for information about each other. Now, it is your turn to ask a more detailed question about her.

You: So what do you like best about being an accountant?

Now you are in conversation. And when this subject slows down, and it will, you start the process over with a new question:

STEP 1: ASK

You: So what kind of music do you like?
She: Green Day.

Once again, you do not respond. You do not comment, even if this is your favorite band of all time and you used to be their drummer before they made it big.

STEP 2: ANSWER

She: How about you?
You: Red Hot Chili Peppers.

STEP 3: ASK

You: I saw Green Day last time they were in town and…

Now we’re talking.

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To attract and seduce a woman, it is necessary to “build
trust” with her. The aim of comfort building is to get the
woman from a mental state where she’s just met you and
doesn’t know you at allto a mental state where she starts
to let her “guard” down and to trust you. Once you succeed
in this, she’ll be more inclined to get “physical” with you.

You see, every woman’s worry is that if she sleeps with you
too soon after meeting you, you’ll automatically think she’s
cheap and “slutty.” So, the way to convince the woman that
you are trustworthy and will respect her and not think she’s
cheap is through the skill of “story telling.” For example,
if I just met you and I told you that I was a trustworthy
guy and I was hardworking and genuine, would you necessarily
believe what I say just because I said it? Not likely.

When we humans are stating ’straightforward’ logical facts
to someone, we are generally engaging the left side of the
listener’s brain, which processes purely logical
information. Humans do not EMOTIONALLY engage with logical
information. When trying to engage and connect with someone
emotionally, you want to target the right side of their
brain which responds to emotions, and how do you do that?
You tell stories.

What particular types of stories should you tell? You
should tell stories that show you in a vulnerable light,
where either you made some type of ‘blunder’ or you lost
something or someone and for which you were deeply affected
and sad. For example you could tell her about the time when
you lost your pet cat or dog, and how it affected you and
what this emotion meant to your life and so on.

You see, what this does is it shows the woman a slight
weakness in your past and that psychologically results in
her trusting you more and seeing you as a sensitive guy in
addition to already being an alpha male. Now, it is
extremely important to FIRST demonstrate that you are indeed
an “ALPHA” male because if you don’t do that, and you
present a vulnerable side without the alpha side of your
character, you’ll risk her thinking you’re just a WIMP. But
once she already sees you as an alpha male, then she has to
feel that she can trust you before she gets physical with
you and for her to trust you, you have to do enough “trust
building.” You do this, of course by telling the right
stories from your past life experience that shows you’re a
sensitive, vulnerable and trustworthy guy.

For example, you should tell stories about how you lost your
dearest dog that meant so much to you growing up as a child.
Or how you helped someone get safely home one night when
they were unable to get there on their own. You see, the
stories are designed to get her “picturing” you as a guy who
can be trusted and who has a “heart.”

Once you have told the right stories, you will notice that
the girl starts to make a deeper emotional connection with
you. She might start to ask you more personal questions and
may even begin to physically touch you a lot more (light
touching of your arms as she laughs at funny things you’re
saying in conversation.)

When she begins to give you these verbal and non-verbal
signs of emotional connection and deepening interest, then
you know that she is ready for you to start making
“physical” moves.

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If you have sat through a few bad meetings, you must have experienced the
following traps. Here they are and how to fix them.

1) People think they are experts.

Many people tell me that they know how to hold a meeting. Actually, all they do is
host a party. They invite guests, provide treats, and preside over a conversation.
People talk. People eat. And nothing happens. Or, if they somehow manage to reach
an agreement, no one implements it.

What to do: Learn how to lead a real meeting. Schedule a workshop or buy a book.
When results really matter, hire a facilitator. Recognize that there are modern tools
that help people make methodical progress toward results. These tools are practical
and easy to use. Of course, you have to know what they are in order to use them.
Call me (714-528-1300) for details.

2) People think they are inspiring.

Many people believe that long-winded announcements impress others. Actually, it’s
the opposite. A long lecture quickly becomes a boring (and sometimes offensive)
harangue. Why? Most employees want an active role in contributing to the business,
and thus listening to a speech feels like a waste of time.

What to do: Design meetings that give the attendees opportunities to contribute.
Plan questions that direct thinking toward the results that you want. Use activities
that help people make decisions. Distribute announcements in letters, memos, or E-
mails. Or, if you must use a meeting, keep announcements brief (less than a few
minutes).

3) People think others agree with them.

Many people rely on nods, smiles, and eye contact to measure acceptance. Actually,
most employees will do anything to appease a boss. And if the boss seems to be
upset, the employees will become even more agreeable. Then, once the meeting
ends, the employees will do one of three things: 1) forget the lecture, 2) ignore the
message, or 3) sabotage the idea.

What to do: Conduct meetings by a process that everyone considers to be fair. Use
consensus to reach agreements and make decisions. People will accept decisions
that they helped make.

4) People think others are clairvoyant.

Many people call meetings without an agenda expecting that everyone will arrive
sharing their vision for what needs to be done. Actually, everyone brings their
private hopes, fears, and vision to the meeting. Without a clear agenda, the result is
something between chitchat and chaos, depending upon the complexity of the
issue.

Note: A vague agenda, such as a list of topics, is almost as useless as no agenda.

What to do: Write out your goal for the meeting. Then prepare an agenda that is so
complete someone else could use it to run the meeting without you. Specify each
step and provide a time budget. Send the agenda at least a day before the meeting
so that the attendees can use it to prepare. Call key participants before the meeting
to check if they have questions or want to talk about the agenda.

5) People think meetings are necessary.

Many people respond to every emergency, surprise, or twitch by calling a meeting.
Actually, a meeting is a special (and expensive) process. It should be used only to
obtain results that require the efforts of a group of people working as a team. A
meeting is NOT a universal cure for everything. Meetings held for the wrong
reasons, waste everyone’s time.

What to do: Challenge every meeting for its ability to earn a profit for your business.
That is, make sure the value of the results is greater than the cost of holding a
meeting. If any other activity can accomplish the same result, use that other activity.

Steve Kaye helps leaders hold effective meetings. He is an IAF Certified Professional
Facilitator, author, and speaker. His meeting facilitation and leadership workshops
create success for everyone. Call 714-528-1300 for details. Visit
http://www.stevekaye.com for a free report.